Infidelity, The Grass Is Always Greener, Isnt It?
By: Michael James Thomas
Why did I do it? You werent there for me, because I dont know you anymore, youre different and youre definitely not the person I married. Its your fault, what did you expect.
Obviously there are thousands of other excuses, but the above excuses are from a cheating spouse who no longer feels loved or needed.
The honey moon period isnt just a few weeks on holiday, it lasts differing lengths of time depending on the couples involved.
I know couples that have married, gone on their honeymoon, come back and thats it! An affair then the dreaded break up. Indeed I know couples who had affairs and finished on their honeymoon.
I also know couples where the honeymoon period has lasted 20+ years, then bang! An affair and Its all over.
Most husbands and wives who cheat on their spouse fully expect that they can carry on with their marriage and their affair(s) with little disruption.
Most cheating spouses want both and if caught cheating do not expect their marriage to end. Other unhappy cheating spouses get into an affair with the sole purpose of ending the marriage, they simply chose not to do the sensible thing and talk with their wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend.
Sometimes, the grass seems greener, but more often than not affairs are doomed to failure.
An affair doesnt have to mean the END!
Couples that actually try to work things out after an affair have tremendous success, if you have children you MUST try, dont give up. If problems are worked out correctly the relationship can grow into something very special. Sometimes you just need to try.
As to the answer to the title of this article, the grass is very rarely greener on the other side!
Michael Thomas has a wealth of experience with cheating spouses, surviving infidelity and saving marriages. For excellent articles and resources, http://surviving--infidelity.blogspot.com/.